I have masses said for deceased non-Catholic friends and family. I choose NOT to give the family a Mass card. Grief is not the time for me to enter into a debate.
You know your family.
Definitely not. No debates. This isn't my family. The deceased was very good friends with my mother-in-law and my husband grew up with her children.
I don't think it would even ever be a debate. I just didn't know if I should explain what everything meant or not in a note or something. Most people here (though this is changing rapidly) are Baptist. They know that I am Catholic and it's never really been discussed. They've been to the Baptisms of my children and just today one of the daughters said that she would've gone to my husband's baptism had she known. Of course, her mother died the night before so everything worked out for the best.
In any case, I didn't write the note. I gave a sympathy card that included enrollment for one year at marian.org. They can look it up on the internet or ask me if they want to know what it is. I think, in general, I think they will appreciate the prayerful gesture.