Well you know, it amazes me how many people say things like 'Ive had so many bad breakups I don't think I will ever be in a relationship again;
I mean, consider, a whopping 40% of women over 40 have NEVER been married....why not?
At least part of the reason is that people are increasingly bitter and cynical about relationships, and they are bitter and cynical because they've had so many bad breakups....
But people have been breaking up since the beginning of time, and it never stopped them from pursuing relationships....what's different now?
A big part of it is that we are living in a culture that no longer understands basic concepts like marriage and family. Our understanding of these things has been twisted to the point that what was once the expectation has become the exception.
I think if we looked at that section of women more carefully we would find very few virgins in the mix, and of the non-virgins we found, I don't think we'd find a whole lot of women who believe that the marital act belongs exclusively within the bounds of marriage (meaning I don't think we'd find that most of them believe that what they did was sinful, that it had only happened once or twice because they didn't avoid temptation, etc.).
I think there would be a few such people, but not many.
I believe we have an increasing number of men and women who are focusing on their careers or whatever else they are using to define their entire person, not thinking about God or His Will for them, trying to create their ideal life. Marriage doesn't always fit into that, or at least it doesn't fit into that at the moment, especially considering that serial monogamy and intercourse outside of marriage are so socially acceptable.
As a secular teenager 13 or 14 years ago, it was very common for the girls my age to declare that they would never get married before 35 or 40. Girls were being encouraged to live "their own lives" -- and that picture does not include marriage at a young age.
And modern men are certainly not going to encourage marriage when they have so many women willing to do certain things outside of marriage. This is especially the case (in my opinion) because men have been dethroned from their status as head of the household. The role of the married man is, for a lot of people, not adequately defined. The man's role as protector of the family and head of the household is appealing to many men, because it is the role that God gave them, but it is often no longer available.
Once you get to a certain age, liberal atheist and agnostic men are all over a single, conservative girls like white on rice. Even they want a relationship wherein they are allowed to actually be men.