Consistent: marked by harmony, regularity, or steady continuity : free from variation or contradiction; showing steady conformity to character, profession, belief, or custom.
Umm... "consistent?" How long, exactly, has he been acting like this? A few days now? A week or two? His behavior has been more inconsistent
than anything as he has been changing tactics to impress you with the "new." (Not necessarily better, just new.) And you are still playing games because you aren't requiring better behavior from him, just different
You know, it's great if he's really
trying to change, but you're still not helping him by doing what you're doing. In fact, by continuing to see him and letting him impress you with such a minor difference in behavior (you don't know if it will last, or even if it's sincere
), you're more of a stumbling block for him--it would be so much better for you both if you just got out of the way. As it stands, you are rewarding him for the very same things as before--pretty words, but no real action, effort, or sacrifice on his part.
For instance, by holding onto his money for him (what are you, a piggy bank?), you're telling him it's fine
that he can't handle his own finances responsibly; you'll do it for him because you're capable and he's not.
You aren't helping him to learn how to do it himself. It looks like kindness on the outside, but in reality, it's holding him back, not helping him grow. You're not being a real friend to him, and you don't love him. Maybe if you did, it wouldn't be this hard for you to let go.
Like Obi-Wan, I'm probably wasting my words telling you all this, but I really hate to see you put yourself--and him--through the train wreck that you seem blind to, but the rest of us can all see coming from miles away.