If this is a list for kids in their teens and twenties, ok, sure for some of them, but for the 30s and up crowd?..
[*]Don't start dating someone until you already have reason to think you may be a good match for marriage. Before that you can more casually spend time getting to know each other better in public activities, things at the parish, etc.
Really don't know about this one. Once a guy gets into the "Friend Zone" with a girl, it's pretty difficult to get out. I'm just barely doing that after 2 and 1/2 years with the one I want...and STILL I'm not sure if we're going to ever start dating. If the romance is there at the start, it is possible for 2 people to control themselves despite popular opinion.
[*]Have dates where you spend time with your families, maybe taking out younger siblings, going out with cousins who are married, having dinner at home with your parents, etc. For that matter think about always or usually going on dates with other people around.
I don't want to depend on other people for company or convo. With regards to the family thing, that only works if they are like-minded, which is not always the case. Most of my nearby family are straight-up bad news. The girl I'm pursuing? She has her own family issues - not bad ones, but there would be a touch of impoliteness from some, with a little inconsideration thown into the mix. Again, it is possible for people to control themselves when it's just 2.
[*]Avoid very long dates, especially multiple long dates in a short period of time. This could create more passion between the couple, which can lead more easily to sin.
Are you kidding me? Time is EXACTLY what's brings us together. Time at church, time at lunch or dinner, or both and time going on day trips. 6 - 9 hours. Maybe it's because I know she's shy and is a real lady, but we don't get all up on each other. We actually just go out and have fun and talk about stuff.
[*]Emphasize daytime dates instead of nighttime dates. A date could start with Saturday morning Mass and Confession, then move onto some other planned activity, for example.
People are gonna sin whether or not the sun is out, and IMO, the more you think
you're going to sin if you do A, B and C, the more prone you will be to do it. Maybe just make getting to know someone and spending time with them the primary reason for the dates?
[*]Have an end time for the date or a certain plan of activities and stick to it.
"Planned" anything only takes you so far. Spontinaity has got to be thrown into the mix every now and then.
[*]Avoid car rides, especially long car rides, unless there are other people in the car. That falls under his #3 of avoiding occasions of idleness, I think.
It falls under OMG, what? Long ride = how long? To whom? For what? Going where? Oh man...really? How about it's simply a means to get from point A to point B? Sometimes a car ride is just a car ride...seriously.
[*] This was mentioned in the article but it's important enough to emphasize again.... make the Faith the center of your relationship. Go to Mass together, say the rosary together, have dates to visit a local shrine or listen to a spiritual talk or go to an event at church. Talk about your Faith and your values. Pray together before and after meals and at other times. etc. Marry someone who loves God.
This is the only one I agree on without question.
I already know with this girl I'm seeing that she and I are not going to do any "funny business" outside of marriage. I wouldn't even consider
breaking that idea she has, and what she reminded me of that's so important to our faith and beliefs. Chaste Dating test - PASSED.